Over
the years, you’ve probably taught your young children, grandchildren, nieces,
and nephews lessons along the lines of “share and share alike” and “better to
give than to receive.” But how do you transition these lessons into more
concrete instruction about charitable giving, without risking the youngest
members of your family becoming overwhelmed or bored? And how can you make
those lessons effective as children grow older?
To
inspire teenagers and young adults, consider tapping into an increasingly
popular topic among younger generations,
which is the notion of “purpose.” “Finding one’s purpose,” in the context of
both personal lives and careers, is also a concept that can unite generations within a single
family. The overarching purpose of giving can be framed as making the
world a better place or strengthening the community. This translates nicely for
youth who are seemingly always asking, ”Why?”
Teaching young children about philanthropy can be a little tricky.
Many donors and fundholders at the Community Foundation have expressed an
interest in learning how to do this. Here are a few principles that might help.
And, as always, reach out to the team at the Community Foundation for ideas
related to your own particular situation.
Positive reinforcement is a must.
As with any
successful learning experience, positive reinforcement is a must in teaching
the values of charitable giving. In particular, you may want to consider
reinforcing that every charitable gift is good regardless of the profile of the
giver, the size of the gift, or the nature of the recipient. Positive
reinforcement in charitable giving is effective because it first engages the
giver’s own understanding of what it means to be philanthropic—from the giver’s
own perspective–even if that giver is very young. So when your school-age
children or grandchildren are raising money for a charity through a school
fundraiser, throwing coins into a fountain to support a local children’s
hospital, or donating gently-used toys and clothing, make sure you let the
child know that these gifts really do make a difference.
Charitable giving can be defined expansively and inclusively.
When you’re
talking with a 10-year-old, conversations about giving back are most productive
when they go well beyond discussions about big checks written to highly-visible
organizations. You may find it helpful in your conversations to cast a wide net
around the definition of what it means to be charitable, often including things
like adopting an older dog who needs a home, turning off lights to help the
environment, cooking dinner for neighbors in need, helping to pay a family
member’s medical bills, and recycling aluminum cans. Your enthusiasm during the
conversation will be contagious as you convey the opportunities. The world is full
of good deeds waiting to be done!
Tap into what the child cares about.
How
do you know what charitable causes might inspire the children in your life?
Ask! You’re likely to hear things like animals, trees, natural disasters, finding
missing people, and having clean air and water. Any one of these gives you a
fantastic opening for further dialogue. Charitable giving opportunities are everywhere!
Understand that children have a power and direction all of their
own.
Even
10-year-olds these days are assertive, aware of news and world affairs, and
most importantly, digital natives. They like to figure things out on their own.
With the tiniest bit of guidance and a lot of encouragement, their ideas go a
long way. Let a child’s interests guide your lesson on giving. You do, however,
have a strong power of suggestion as an adult. Kids do not necessarily know how
to find the exact names of charitable entities, and they certainly do not know
what “501(c)(3)” means, but they remember a place after they’re told it does
lots of good for people.
Keep it short and keep it mutual.
The
children in your life are brilliant, wonderful, and perceptive, but they do
have short attention spans. Make the lessons informal, spontaneous, and
flexible, and create plenty of opportunities for storytelling. Children have a
story for everything, and they love to share. Let them talk about how they
feel. Let them tell you how, where, and why they want to give.
Take action!
Finally,
don’t just talk–take action! For children with a grasp of money, charitable
values can be taught through allocations. For the youngest, that may be from
their allowance. For the more experienced, allotments can come from
after-school or summer job earnings. Giving can be highly interactive or participatory. For example,
parents can show children the causes they support or suggest potential grantees
based on the child’s interests, and let them choose. Parents can also show them
how a gift can be easily made from the family’s donor-advised fund at the Community
Foundation, which offers many benefits and can often be named to include names
of the child or children.
At the Community Foundation, we’re here to help your
family–even its youngest members–convert ideas into reality for the causes they
care about the most.